Comments on: How’s marriage? http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/hows-marriage/ "If a man thinks that a woman who can ride broncs is too much for him, he's probably right." Wed, 23 Jun 2010 16:34:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Emiliano http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/hows-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-37231 Emiliano Sat, 19 Apr 2008 15:00:25 +0000 http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/?p=35#comment-37231 Wait till you have kids! Love you brother. Wait till you have kids! Love you brother.

]]> By: Maysoon http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/hows-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-34179 Maysoon Fri, 14 Mar 2008 05:22:13 +0000 http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/?p=35#comment-34179 This post makes me soo happy. You my friend are honest like none other I have experience thus far in regards to marriage. I'm glad to hear married life like you have described. I see it as a great example or a "how to" respond to "The big question"> Hows married life? hahaha I hope all are well and while I'm here I wanted to share a little secret. Do you know that the first Bahai's I ever met were of course Abi and Kiyomi but then there was you and Negin and a handful of others that have shown me or have pointed me toward a certain path. A path toward a faith that makes me sooo happy and peaceful. You guys were the first people in my whole life that I have seen who had a great spiritual connection to God and each other. It was beautiful and inspiring and something I longed for. THANK YOU! : ) This post makes me soo happy. You my friend are honest like none other I have experience thus far in regards to marriage. I’m glad to hear married life like you have described. I see it as a great example or a “how to” respond to “The big question”> Hows married life? hahaha

I hope all are well and while I’m here I wanted to share a little secret. Do you know that the first Bahai’s I ever met were of course Abi and Kiyomi but then there was you and Negin and a handful of others that have shown me or have pointed me toward a certain path. A path toward a faith that makes me sooo happy and peaceful. You guys were the first people in my whole life that I have seen who had a great spiritual connection to God and each other. It was beautiful and inspiring and something I longed for.

THANK YOU! : )

]]> By: Laura http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/hows-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-27650 Laura Tue, 25 Dec 2007 18:37:22 +0000 http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/?p=35#comment-27650 Wow! I just did a search, for a children's class I am preparing for, and happened upon your website! I LOVE the quote from Dr. Danesh. I wish to write the story!!! Thank you for sharing! Your response Negin to everyone's requests about "how is marriage" is perfect. You must know I ask that question of new couples, and would ask you too if I were able to see you!!, because I know the first years of marriage are wonderful, and challenging, difficult and inspiring...I am happy for you both. My asking that question would be full of love for you both, full of hope for your future, and concern for what you may go through in the process. I pray that you will come up with healthy pathways of dialog that address all of the problem areas before you have children. As long as the pathways are there, you can pave them and landscape around them later. love for you both. Wow! I just did a search, for a children’s class I am preparing for, and happened upon your website! I LOVE the quote from Dr. Danesh. I wish to write the story!!!
Thank you for sharing! Your response Negin to everyone’s requests about “how is marriage” is perfect.
You must know I ask that question of new couples, and would ask you too if I were able to see you!!, because I know the first years of marriage are wonderful, and challenging, difficult and inspiring…I am happy for you both. My asking that question would be full of love for you both, full of hope for your future, and concern for what you may go through in the process.
I pray that you will come up with healthy pathways of dialog that address all of the problem areas before you have children. As long as the pathways are there, you can pave them and landscape around them later.
love for you both.

]]> By: delara http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/hows-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-21338 delara Sat, 22 Sep 2007 23:49:09 +0000 http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/?p=35#comment-21338 aw, lev. i appreciate deeply how your writing and your blog really express your essence. it's very cool. as i read, i can *hear* you saying what you have written. that's pretty cool. as for marriage, rock on. "beautiful struggle" is good terminology, just as is "perfectly imperfect" to describe human beings. steve and i are in month six of our marriage, and we are definitely enjoying the unity just as much as we are experiencing the grinding process. (i too blogged about that ubiquitous question, "so, how's married life?" yeah, yeah, yeah.) and as for other topics covered here--particularly urban agriculture and what you are exploring with context-specific information and food stamps being used at farmer's markets--i am very intrigued and look forward to reading and learning more. thank you for exposing me to such creative thinking and exploration! lots of love to (and prayers for) you and negin. always. :) aw, lev. i appreciate deeply how your writing and your blog really express your essence. it’s very cool. as i read, i can *hear* you saying what you have written. that’s pretty cool.

as for marriage, rock on. “beautiful struggle” is good terminology, just as is “perfectly imperfect” to describe human beings. steve and i are in month six of our marriage, and we are definitely enjoying the unity just as much as we are experiencing the grinding process. (i too blogged about that ubiquitous question, “so, how’s married life?” yeah, yeah, yeah.)

and as for other topics covered here–particularly urban agriculture and what you are exploring with context-specific information and food stamps being used at farmer’s markets–i am very intrigued and look forward to reading and learning more. thank you for exposing me to such creative thinking and exploration!

lots of love to (and prayers for) you and negin. always. :)

]]> By: lev http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/hows-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-21094 lev Mon, 17 Sep 2007 17:02:59 +0000 http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/?p=35#comment-21094 leslie: w00t. We were just deepening on that article with some friends of ours. If anyone wants it, please find it here: <a href="http://bahai-library.com/index.php5?file=danesh_marriage_sexuality" rel="nofollow">Marriage and Sexuality</a>. abi: We are in complete agreement. Next to becoming a Baha'i, eternal kinship with Negin is the best decision I've made. marjan: you are too sweet. i'll keep sharing if you keep holding it down in the middle west. steven: how cool to get external corroboration! Dr. Danesh talks about "the love of equals," and I think we're all trying to figure out how to get there. We're like the coolest research community ever. <blockquote> The love of equals, on the other hand, is a different kind of love relationship... We do not yet have the love story of equals. The literature of the world does not depict the love stories of equal relationships. We have to write them. This is the first time in the history of humanity that God has said, "Love Me, that I may love thee. If thou lovest Me not, My love can in no wise reach thee." With that, God has said to humanity: grow up. This is the age of maturity. Put aside these old childhood ways, and adolescent ways of looking at love. In your relationship with God, you must love at the level of a mature being. It is an honour that God has bestowed upon this generation. The young people of this generation, as well as the not-so-young people of this generation, have to begin to write love stories of equal relationships. How do you write it? By creating it. By living it. --Dr. Hossain Danesh</blockquote> leslie: w00t. We were just deepening on that article with some friends of ours. If anyone wants it, please find it here: Marriage and Sexuality.
abi: We are in complete agreement. Next to becoming a Baha’i, eternal kinship with Negin is the best decision I’ve made.
marjan: you are too sweet. i’ll keep sharing if you keep holding it down in the middle west.
steven: how cool to get external corroboration! Dr. Danesh talks about “the love of equals,” and I think we’re all trying to figure out how to get there. We’re like the coolest research community ever.

The love of equals, on the other hand, is a different kind of love relationship… We do not yet have the love story of equals. The literature of the world does not depict the love stories of equal relationships. We have to write them. This is the first time in the history of humanity that God has said, “Love Me, that I may love thee. If thou lovest Me not, My love can in no wise reach thee.” With that, God has said to humanity: grow up. This is the age of maturity. Put aside these old childhood ways, and adolescent ways of looking at love. In your relationship with God, you must love at the level of a mature being. It is an honour that God has bestowed upon this generation. The young people of this generation, as well as the not-so-young people of this generation, have to begin to write love stories of equal relationships. How do you write it? By creating it. By living it.
–Dr. Hossain Danesh

]]> By: leslie http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/hows-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-21093 leslie Mon, 17 Sep 2007 16:12:27 +0000 http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/?p=35#comment-21093 i am delighted with your frankness and willingness to grow. i can only hope that my future mate is as humble and strong and reflective as you and that i can have the patience to be a good and communicative wife. i read somewhere that marriage is the first baby a couple has-it (marriage) needs to be nurtured, right? and of course in the first baby year it is all about getting little sleep and crazy schedules and lots of cleaning up after diapers and what not, but the joy is nearly immeasurable? just guessing....anyway i love you growing and knowing and i miss you both and love you both so very very much. oh and if you want to check out that article: Dr. Hossain Danesh.....it's on the Bahai Library....I think it is from a talk called Marriage and Sexuality he gave in 1991....you may have read it. i like it a lot i am delighted with your frankness and willingness to grow. i can only hope that my future mate is as humble and strong and reflective as you and that i can have the patience to be a good and communicative wife. i read somewhere that marriage is the first baby a couple has-it (marriage) needs to be nurtured, right? and of course in the first baby year it is all about getting little sleep and crazy schedules and lots of cleaning up after diapers and what not, but the joy is nearly immeasurable? just guessing….anyway i love you growing and knowing and i miss you both and love you both so very very much.
oh and if you want to check out that article: Dr. Hossain Danesh…..it’s on the Bahai Library….I think it is from a talk called Marriage and Sexuality he gave in 1991….you may have read it. i like it a lot

]]> By: lev http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/hows-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-21082 lev Mon, 17 Sep 2007 13:02:12 +0000 http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/?p=35#comment-21082 I miss you <strong>so</strong> much. Do you feel like you're home? I miss you so much. Do you feel like you’re home?

]]> By: Abi http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/hows-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-21081 Abi Mon, 17 Sep 2007 12:01:14 +0000 http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/?p=35#comment-21081 Hmmmm. So being married is harder than just being human, hm? i think you know how i feel about that. Good on ya for being glad for it. That is an assumption. You are coming to see me almost soon. *sigh* i know. you're not coming to see me. But you will anyway and i am happy for that. i think pilgrimage in the first year of marriage is the best of ideas. i also think an eternal kinship with Negin falls into that category. "Yes, yes," as they say, "very good, very good." Hmmmm. So being married is harder than just being human, hm? i think you know how i feel about that. Good on ya for being glad for it. That is an assumption. You are coming to see me almost soon. *sigh* i know. you’re not coming to see me. But you will anyway and i am happy for that. i think pilgrimage in the first year of marriage is the best of ideas. i also think an eternal kinship with Negin falls into that category. “Yes, yes,” as they say, “very good, very good.”

]]> By: Marjan http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/hows-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-20946 Marjan Thu, 13 Sep 2007 05:25:59 +0000 http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/?p=35#comment-20946 Thank you for sharing this, dear friend. I hope that if I ever find myself in the same position I'll remember your advice. Thank you for sharing this, dear friend. I hope that if I ever find myself in the same position I’ll remember your advice.

]]> By: Steven http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/hows-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-20928 Steven Wed, 12 Sep 2007 16:18:20 +0000 http://www.mollusc.org/wordpress/?p=35#comment-20928 Frank, loving, honest -- and exactly how I feel 4 years down a similar road. PS. Thanks Phillipe for linking me here. Frank, loving, honest — and exactly how I feel 4 years down a similar road.

PS. Thanks Phillipe for linking me here.

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